Monday, September 24, 2007

Lesbian mothers and breast feeding

Do many lesbian biological mother's breastfeed their babies? Recently, I was at a brunch of lesbian/bisexual single moms and I was rather embarrassed at the shocked look on the women's faces when I nursed my daughter. I only know of a limited few lesbians that ever breastfed their babies and only one who is, like me, doing extended nursing (nursing beyond 12 months). I admit while I'm in touch with the lesbian community, I don't spend enough time immersed in it to appreciate the norms on issues like this. Many of the moms were adoptive moms, which presents a challenge to breastfeeding. One must induce milk with medically prescribed hormones and a rigorous routine of pumping to get a partial supply when not giving birth. Understandable why some adopting moms choose not to undergo that course.

Breastfeeding beyond a year around other people is a challenge of it's own. I guess I didn't expect negativity from a group of women who daily have to defend their rights to be parents. Personally, I think homosexuality is as natural as breathing, no matter what degree it expresses its self in a person. To me, it is as natural to love a woman as a man. So I don't get it. Lesbians are women, just like me. Many lesbians are mothers, just like me. So why is it weird that I breast fed my child in front of them?

Breasts are nice to look at when there's not a ravenous, wiggly child attached to them. The mountains are nice to look at when there's not a ski lift attached to them as well. It certainly isn't a sexual feeling since breast feeding frequently hurts, especially when nursing a child with teeth who likes to bite, and pinch with fingers.

Is it just because Americans have such problems with breastfeeding? Or is it because lesbians seem to have more negative feelings about the female body and it's biological functions? It's bad enough to have to endure the negativity and rejection of society telling you that you're unnatural. So why then make it harder by seeing your body as unnatural?